I tried to pursue the relationship but it soon became clear that he wanted nothing more to do with me, so I gave up. I was very upset and suffered from anxiety problems for a while, even though I had only been seeing this man for a month or so.

Then recently, I bumped into him at a night club. We were chatting and he started to tell me that he regretted ending our relationship and said that he still liked me.

We ended up kissing, although I made sure he was the one doing the pursuing this time!

Then when introducing me to some of his friends we bumped into, he called me his girlfriend, but he called me a different name - not my name.

I got angry and left him.

Having spoken to him since, we are still friends and he says that he only called me that name because he was drunk. But that begs the question, 'Did he mean the things he said to me about regretting ending the relationship?'.

I am confused about the whole situation.

Answer
No one can make predictions about the way a relationship is going to go.

People are full of surprises, that I do know! But look (objectively) at what you have so far, and I'm sure you will agree that it isn't encouraging.

You had a kind-of-interested guy that changed his mind and dropped you like a brick. He never bothered to get back in touch, even though your feelings for him were clear.

You met by chance, got chatting, you were wearing your heart on your sleeve. He was drunk (is he often drunk, I wonder?)

Things got physical, you ended up kissing. He probably likes kissing and getting physical. A mate pitches up, he has to introduce you but he can't remember your name.

He's so slotted he doesn't even realise he's forgotten your name, but you fit somewhere into the "babe" category so he blurts out the first name that creeps out of the fog.

Alas, it isn't yours, and you justifiably take offence. Bummer! He tries to get out of it by blaming the drink, and rather than face the possibility that you're just another entry in his Babe Ledger, you do your best to believe him though suspicions have been aroused and won't go away.

Is that a fair summary?

The way it looks to an outsider, this man is not a customer for love and commitment. So if you're still not ready to give up on him, at least "proceed with caution", and listen to what other people are saying, especially those who really do care about you.

Beware of wishful thinking; of telling yourself that what you want must be what he wants, too.

You still don't know why he dumped you the first time - could be be because he saw something he liked better? Was he scared off?

What do your friends (your real friends) think of him?

With most people 'what you see is what you get' - if you can be happy with that, enjoy his company, and maybe a little bit more, then fine. But from your intense emotional reaction to his rejection, even after a relatively brief relationship, you don't appear to be that kind of good-time, happy go lucky woman.

Wouldn't it be more accurate to say that you have a sensitive heart, a sense of self esteem that's easily bruised, and a strong need for safety?

If that is so, then maybe you need to take better care of yourself, and wait for a chance to entrust your most tender feelings to someone who will treat them with due respect.